We talk about attitude a lot. There’s attitude problems — though we rarely admit having one. Being described as having an attitude is not a compliment. The demarcation lines between wrong attitude and right attitude often are blurred, depending on the judge’s own attitude. There’s a winners’ attitude and a losers’ attitude; a fighter’s attitude and a coward’s attitude. And who’s to say what differentiates a child’s attitude to that of an adult’s?
But really, what is attitude?
An attitude is the way you think and feel about someone or something. It is a feeling or way of thinking that affects a person’s behavior.
A lot of people tend to confuse one’s temperament or personality with one’s attitude. Our temperaments and personalities somehow influences how we react or perceive things. But one’s attitude can override our basic mind programming. A generally sanguine person can be quite cynical if s/he keeps a mindset of negativity. Even a strongly melancholic individual can exhibit jubilant behavior if such would choose to have joyful thoughts.
Attitudes go beyond our normal, predictable nature. Our attitudes can push us to do more than what we’re usually capable of, accomplish things that surpass our very own expectations… or it can simply sink us from actually doing anything, or worse— sabotage everything even before we began. And these attitudes encompass every aspect of our lives: from family, work, school, neighborhood, relationships, friendships, church and even towards God.
Oftentimes, we like to play victim of our own attitudes. I’m sad, so I’ll do this. I’m angry, so I’ll do that. I’m lonely, so I’ll try this. I’m confused, so I’ll try that. You hurt me, so I’ll hurt you. You did that, so I’ll do this too. Having a “so” attitude is not helpful at all. It only knows how to react immediately and instinctively. And our basic human instincts aren’t perfect at all.
We need a be attitude.
A “be” attitude is an ideal. It’s not easy— because it contradicts our very human nature. It challenges us to believe in something better than the realities we see, and in doing so, create in us a fervent hope, a lofty dream. A “be” attitude can make you discover a beautiful world beyond selfish desires.
The Gospel of Christ talks about beatitudes — which is simply defined as “a state of utmost bliss”. And while I won’t be doing a theological premise or even an in-depth hermeneutics of it, I admit that this blog series was and is definitely influenced by the said Bible passage. Thus, there might be sections in these blogs wherein I would connect it with Bible passages.
For the following blogs*, I intend to talk about the following be attitudes:
#1 — Gratitude
#3 — Certitude
#4 — Solicitude
#5 — Promptitude
#6 — Fortitude
#7 — Vicissitude
#8 — Quietude & Solitude
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Hope you’ll enjoy this series! God bless you!
*I might change or rearrange the items along the way haha still working on my thoughts on this…